And whatever you do, don't treat the date like an interview. Covering the happy-hour scene for The Seattle Times, nearly every week I see several first dates unfold — a lot of them awkward. It just sends a negative message. Enjoy your drinks with a little sensibility while allowing the booze … to take the edge off your anxiety or inhibition.
We Asked Bartenders the Best Tips for Meeting Guys at Bars, and This Is What They Said - Verily
Perhaps you might want to give bartending a shot no pun intended. Obviously, dealing with mostly a college crowd is going to be really different than working at a neighborhood bar catering to an out-of-college crowd, but even taking that into consideration, the scene now is just totally different. With the rise of smartphones, people show up, sit down, and just take out their phones. Before, people would come in, sit at the bar, and actually talk to others—the bartenders, those sitting around them—it was lively and engaging. Everyone always looks perpetually engaged in something, so it makes it harder for others to approach someone.
Dating do’s and don’ts — wisdom from Seattle bartenders
For those of us who are single and looking for real love, going to the bar is more than just a fun way to enjoy a night out with friends. The bar represents a world of possibility—at least in theory. In reality, it tends to lead to too much time in dead-end conversations or something resembling conversations with the wrong people.
To say that things have felt a little out of control for the past year or so is a bit of an understatement. If you have a lot of inner resilience, you may be doing just fine, even in the face of pandemic fatigue. But many people are not doing fine.