Many of us recognize the value of improving our feelings of self-worth. When our self-esteem is higher, we not only feel better about ourselves, we are more resilient as well. But as wonderful as it is to have higher self-esteem, it turns out that improving it is no easy task. Despite the endless array of articles, programs and products promising to enhance our self-esteem, the reality is that many of them do not work and some are even likely to make us feel worse. Part of the problem is that our self-esteem is rather unstable to begin with, as it can fluctuate daily, if not hourly. Further complicating matters, our self-esteem comprises both our global feelings about ourselves as well as how we feel about ourselves in the specific domains of our lives e.
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Self-esteem is what we think of ourselves. Self-esteem is relatively stable and enduring, though it can fluctuate. Healthy self-esteem makes us resilient and hopeful about life. Self-esteem affects not only what we think, but also how we feel and behave.
In psychology , the term self-esteem is used to describe a person's overall subjective sense of personal worth or value—in other words, how much you appreciate and like yourself. It involves a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your own appearance, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors. Self-esteem includes all of the various beliefs that people hold about themselves including those related to how they look and feel, as well as how they feel about specific attributes or abilities "I am a great painter," "I'm a terrible friend," etc.
People often refer to self-esteem as if it is one thing. I see it as much more complex than that. First, I think there is likely to be a genetic component to self-esteem. How often have we seen people who have every reason to have good self-esteem and yet do not? If you think about it, people who are shy and although this is clearly a trait that can be influenced by the environment, I also think there is a genetic component to shyness and certainly anxiety are often timid as young children.