Accept the fact that pain changes people to make them stronger. You were the last person to think that would hurt them. So what do you expect? You know what pisses them off and what turns them on. You already see the difference between jokes and half meant jokes. You basically know how their mind works.
Maybe you just got out of that relationship and can't stop thinking about them, or it ended years ago but certain things like the faint scent of their cologne or perfume triggers their memory. Either way the end of a serious relationship can be hard to get over. When do you know when it's really over? When do you know it's time to move on? And how do you move on? I dated my ex for two years, and I can honestly say I was never more sure that someone was my soulmate. We had a bond that no one could break, and I just knew he was "the one.
According to the lyrics of a s song penned by Sammy Cahn and Jimmy van Heusen, "Love is lovelier the second time around. Joel Block cautions that not every rekindled romance with an ex is guaranteed a happier outcome than what happened before. If you plan to give your ex-boyfriend a second chance and resume dating, it's important that your open mind and forgiving heart are balanced by a healthy respect for your own self-esteem and self-worth. Make a list of the reasons you and your ex-boyfriend parted. Examples of this might include different interests, goals and values, incompatible schedules, dishonesty, infidelity, physical or emotional abuse, or just not being ready for the responsibilities of a serious relationship.
You're in the right place, and I'm going to try and answer this question for you. It's even worse if you wish that you were still together with him and are hoping he will come back. If there's any chance of your ex coming back to you, you have to rule out that he's not seeing some other girl now. The last thing you want to do is stalk him, so I recommend doing some research online to see what he's been up to.