INTJs are not impulsive people. In fact, it could take them years to properly decide whether or not the two of you make sense together. First they have to discern whether or not they are attracted to you. Then they have to assess your suitability as a partner. Last but certainly not least in terms of time allocation , they have to form an action plan regarding which steps they should take to win you over. INTJs are interested in people — what makes them tick, what pushes their buttons and how they operate on a rational and emotional level.
But INTJs seek long term, happy relationships the same as any other personality type. They just do it a little differently than most people. Despite their overly rational nature, INTJs are also idealistic perfectionists. This can be a major problem when it comes to relationships. An INTJ will go into a new relationship with a clear fantasy of how the relationship will be, and will become bitterly disappointed when that fantasy is shattered. INTJs need to learn to ease up on the people around them, and on themselves, and to accept that nothing and nobody can ever be perfect.
For the INTJ flirting and dating is often much different than it is for the more emotionally expressive types. There are some stereotypes out there saying that INTJs are not interested in dating and can be someone who wants to be sllo, but that is not connected to their type necessarily. There are plenty of INTJs who do want to find a romantic partner, and who care about being in an important relationship. When it comes to flirting the INTJ does often try to impress the person they are interested in. They do a lot of research on someone when they are truly interested and search for different pieces of information about them.
INTJs often experience relationship struggles because they expect their partners to comprehend their unique gifts. INTJs are not interested in one-night stands or flings. INTJs are very rare, and the other introverted personalities do not understand them.